Awhile back I was spending way too much time on forums and loops. Deciding I needed to take a break and spend more time writing, I deleted my subscriptions. But I missed the friendships and now that I’m getting published, I decided to reward myself by rejoining the writing world. But I forgot those online groups weren’t all roses and rainbows. You see, I forgot about those online bullies.
You know them, you’ve encountered them, you’ve probably argued with them a time or two. There’s always at least one in each group. The know it all, the person who fights about every issue, the person you can’t possibly win a battle against because let’s face it, they’re slightly insane and you can’t win an argument against a crazy person. Yes, I forgot about those online trolls/bullies, whatever you want to call them. It’s been only a couple months since I’ve been back in the online writing world, but already I’m having to bite my tongue more times than I can count.
I have this instant urge to come to people’s defense; those I feel are being belittled or beaten. Unfortunately, this doesn’t help much online. No matter what I, or anyone else says, the bullies are still there, the arguments go on and on and on never ending, never winning. So what do we do about these bullies? Instead of ignoring these bullies, people oddly tend to appease them. I don’t get it. But I do know a fact; there is absolutely no way to argue with these people. It’s fruitless, a no win situation. So I’ve come to the decision that the best thing to do is ignore them. But as much as I try to ignore them, it still depresses me that we, who write and read a genre that promotes love and happy endings, can be so vile to each other.
So what about you? How do you get what you want from forums/loops, without being sucked into the countless arguments that go on?
On a happier note, I have two amazing interviews coming up.
One with the lovely Donna Russo Morin, http://www.donnarussomorin.com/
And one with the enchanting young adult author Polly Shulman, http://pollyshulman.com/
Check back later for those interviews and a chance to win a book or two!